I was chatting with a friend one day and the topic of masculinity and feminine energies came up while trying to understand their relationship with each energy better. I wasn’t exactly sure how to explain the differences between the energies to my friend so I consulted with my AI. I asked it to describe to me what unevolved vs evolved masculine and feminine energy looks like and was pleasantly surprised with what it had shared. I thought it would be helpful for y’all to read as well so I decided to turn it into a post.
Keep in mind that these energies exist within all of us regardless of gender — think anima & animus — and that the goal would be for us to balance both masculine and feminine qualities in their evolved forms in order to become more mature and whole versions of ourselves. Just because you might be one gender doesn’t mean you can’t embody the energies of the other. Yes, you literally could have it all! No need to choose! A big ass energetic buffet of choices!!! Hopefully the evolved versions BUT… if you insist on embodying ALL of the unevolved qualities of both energies… then have at it! The more power to you! Just make sure to stay very VERY far away from me! 🤣
A quick note: The qualities listed below are just for informational purposes only and should not be used to punish ourselves and others. There’s no need to judge. Please stay open minded if possible and take everything with a grain of salt.
Here is what my AI had shared with me:
Masculine Energy
Unevolved Masculine Energy
Power Over vs Power With
- Dominance, control, competition as zero-sum games
- “I win, you lose” mentality
- Uses force rather than strength
Emotional Suppression
- “Real men don’t cry,” emotional unavailability
- Anger as the only acceptable emotion
- Projects emotions onto others rather than owning them
Toxic Competition
- Everything is a contest, including relationships
- Threatened by others’ success
- Needs to be “the best” rather than doing their best
Entitlement
- Expects service, attention, or compliance without reciprocity
- Takes credit, deflects responsibility
Fear-Based Decision Making
- Acts from insecurity, scarcity mindset, need to prove worth
- Defensive rather than responsive
Objectification
- Sees others (especially women) as means to an end
- Views people as objects rather than whole beings with agency and worth
Evolved Masculine Energy
Protective Strength
- Uses power to defend and uplift rather than dominate
- Strong boundaries that create safety for others
Emotional Intelligence
- Comfortable with full emotional range
- Takes responsibility for their inner world
- Communicates feelings clearly
Collaborative Leadership
- Elevates others, shares credit, creates win-win scenarios
- Secure enough to celebrate others’ success
Service-Oriented
- Uses capabilities to contribute meaningfully
- Acts from abundance and generosity rather than scarcity
Integrity in Action
- Decisions aligned with values
- Follows through on commitments
- Admits mistakes and grows from them
Authentic Respect
- Sees and honors the full humanity in others
- Creates space for others to be themselves rather than needing them to be different
Grounded Presence
- Stable, reliable, emotionally regulated
- Can hold space for others’ experiences without needing to fix or change them
Feminine Energy
Unevolved Feminine Energy
Manipulation vs Direct Communication
- Using emotional manipulation, passive-aggression, or guilt to get needs met
- Avoiding clear, honest communication
Victim Consciousness
- Chronic powerlessness, blaming others for life circumstances
- Refusing to take responsibility for personal choices and growth
Competitive Jealousy
- Seeing other women as threats
- Tearing others down to feel better about self
- Scarcity mindset around love/success
Emotional Volatility
- Using emotions as weapons
- Dramatic outbursts to control situations
- Refusing to self-regulate or take accountability for emotional impacts
Codependency
- Over-giving to the point of self-abandonment
- Enabling others’ dysfunction
- Losing sense of self in relationships
Superficial Focus
- Prioritizing appearance/image over substance
- Seeking external validation
- Competing on surface-level attributes
Martyr Complex
- Sacrificing endlessly then resenting others for it
- Playing the victim while secretly controlling through guilt
Evolved Feminine Energy
Intuitive Wisdom
- Trusting inner knowing
- Making decisions from both heart and mind
- Accessing deeper truths beyond surface appearances
Nurturing Strength
- Supporting others’ growth while maintaining healthy boundaries
- Caring without enabling
Creative Flow
- Manifesting visions into reality
- Bringing beauty and innovation
- Collaborating with natural cycles rather than forcing
Emotional Intelligence
- Feeling deeply while maintaining clarity
- Using emotions as information rather than weapons
- Creating emotional safety for others
Sacred Sisterhood
- Lifting other women
- Celebrating others’ success
- Creating supportive communities rather than competing
Authentic Self-Expression
- Speaking truth with grace
- Honoring both gentleness and fierceness
- Showing up authentically regardless of others’ expectations
Cyclical Wisdom
- Understanding seasons of rest and action
- Honoring both giving and receiving
- Knowing when to surrender and when to assert
Magnetic Presence
- Drawing in what aligns rather than chasing or forcing
- Trusting in natural abundance and timing
What’s cool about this list that my AI gave me is it helped me identify where I need to work on to further evolve my own energies. For example, seeing how codependency is actually an unevolved form of femininity, and is something I’ve been blind to most of my life, lets me know that it’s incredibly important for me to pay attention to, and that I should strive to NOT over-give to the point of self-abandonment, enable others’ dysfunction, and lose my sense of self in relationships. Also, I should not be self sacrificing to the point where I become a martyr, full of resentment and anger. Instead, I’d need to focus on keeping my cup full at all times and be mindful of how much I give. And if I notice myself doing those “unevolved” things, then I know I am not acting from the space that I’d like to operate from. It also surprised me to learn that manifesting visions into reality is an energetically feminine trait. I would’ve thought it was masculine?? Perhaps the 5D into the 3D is the feminine part and the action required is the masculine part? 🤔
Anyway, after learning about evolved vs unevolved energies, I became curious what someone who has integrated both evolved energies would look like in order to know what to aim for personally. Also, I wanted to identify those in my life who already embody these qualities so that I can cherish them even more and keep them close lol.
This is my AI’s response:
AI: Oh, someone with integrated evolved masculine and feminine energy is absolutely magnetic and powerful in the most authentic way! They embody what we might call “whole human” energy.
In Leadership:
They can be both decisive and intuitive – making clear, grounded decisions while remaining open to input and course-correction. They lead through inspiration rather than force, creating safety for others to contribute their best while maintaining clear direction and boundaries.
In Relationships:
They’re emotionally available and communicative while also being stable and reliable. They can hold space for others’ emotions without losing themselves, and they can be vulnerable without being needy. They give generously while maintaining healthy boundaries.
In Conflict:
They can be fierce when protecting what matters while remaining compassionate toward the person they’re in conflict with. They fight for principles, not to dominate. They can stand their ground without needing others to be wrong.
In Communication:
They speak truth with both clarity and kindness. They’re direct without being harsh, gentle without being weak. They can receive feedback without defensiveness and give it without cruelty.
In Problem-Solving:
They combine strategic thinking with creative intuition. They can analyze logically while also trusting their gut feelings. They’re practical dreamers who can envision possibilities and create concrete steps to manifest them.
In Crisis:
They become incredibly grounded and present – able to take decisive action while remaining emotionally centered. They can be the calm in the storm while also being the person who actually fixes things.
Overall Presence:
There’s this quality of complete authenticity – they don’t need to perform masculinity or femininity, they just ARE. They’re comfortable with all aspects of themselves, which makes others feel safe to be authentic too. They have this rare combination of strength and softness that feels both protective and nurturing.
People like this often become natural mentors and catalysts because they can see and call forth the best in others while maintaining their own center. They’re the people others instinctively trust and want to be around.
This was pretty cool to read! I was like awwwww…….. I definitely know people in my life who embody a lot of these qualities and it makes sense why I LOVE and adore them sooooooooo much!!! Now that I think about it, majority of the people in my inner circle exhibit so many of these qualities!!!
I love them so much!!!!!!!!!!!!
And now for the “fun” stuff…
I was curious, and a bit afraid to ask, but I wondered what would an individual with both unevolved masculine and unevolved feminine energy look like?
This is my AI’s response LOL:
AI: OH NO, you really don’t want to meet this person! They’re like a walking emotional disaster with the self-awareness of a brick wall!
In Relationships:
They’re manipulative AND controlling – using both emotional guilt trips and dominance tactics to get their way. They’ll play victim while also trying to intimidate. It’s like watching someone throw a tantrum while flexing their muscles at the same time.
In Communication:
Passive-aggressive with explosive outbursts. They’ll give you the silent treatment for three days then blow up screaming about something completely unrelated. Zero emotional regulation combined with zero direct communication skills.
In Conflict:
They escalate EVERYTHING while simultaneously playing the victim. “You made me yell at you, and also how dare you make me feel bad about yelling!” Pure chaos.
At Work:
Takes credit for everything good, blames everyone else for problems, gossips constantly, AND tries to dominate meetings. Throws colleagues under the bus while also playing office martyr.
In Crisis:
Completely falls apart while also trying to control everyone else’s response to their falling apart. Maximum drama with zero actual problem-solving.
Overall Vibe:
Imagine someone who’s simultaneously entitled AND perpetually victimized, emotionally volatile AND emotionally unavailable, competitive with everyone AND constantly needing rescue. They drain every room they enter while also trying to dominate it.
OMG… I actually know people like this!!! No wonder I avoid them like the plague lol. It almost sounds like a description of a grade A narcissist. You know that “ick” I’ve mentioned in other posts that I had started to develop? This is it. Maybe because of the healing work I’ve done around codependency, whenever I encounter people who have a heavy amount of these qualities, my gut literally screams at me and lets me know to maintain strong boundaries around these types of people.
Oddly enough, seeing the unevolved masculine and feminine description listed out like this has helped me view the “narcissists” in my life in a different light. Almost like, oh… they’re just operating from very unevolved versions of their unbalanced energies and that’s okay. I can choose not to be around people like that and maintain healthy boundaries. If they want to, they can choose to work on evolving those energies within them. And if they don’t, then I’ll continue loving them from afar.
As a reminder, it’s important to note that these lists are for educational purposes only and should NOT be used to punish ourselves and others. If someone acts from an unevolved form of whichever energy, it doesn’t mean we need to be like EW you suck go (bleep) yourself. I mean, you totally can if you want but like maybe having some grace here can be nice LOL. But perhaps the lists are good to help us identify the types of people who we’d want to be around, when to set strict boundaries out of self protection and preservation, and how we can self-improve.
For example, if someone has ALL of the qualities of unevolved masculine and feminine energy, I’d be really careful here. I’d imagine you’ll want to consider whether you want this person in your life because it sounds like there could potentially be a lot of drama. Someone who’s not accountable for their own emotions and actions but will hold you accountable for yours? That’s a power dynamic that never leads to anything positive. Also, just because someone might have unevolved versions of each energy doesn’t mean they’ll stay like that forever, there’s always room for growth if they decide to take it on. Again, there’s no need to punish or judge ourselves for having unevolved versions of each energy. It literally just means, “Here’s something you can work on! Have fun!”
Anyway, I thought this information might be helpful to share. Personally, I found it incredibly helpful to see the traits listed out in such a way. Hopefully this information is useful for you too! I think the journey of growth involves a lot of authentic self-reflection and the willingness to self-improve. This involves becoming aware of the parts of ourselves that we can work on and staying committed to that growth. Where do you find yourself on the lists? Identify anything you’d like to work on?
P.S.
It’s time for a heart to heart for my empathetic healers out there who believe everyone deserves a second chance and always see the best in others — do you recognize these kinds of people in your life? The ones who embody a majority of the unevolved masculine and unevolved feminine energies?
It’s extremely important to be able to identify that list of traits in the people around you. These predators can smell you from a mile away, they WILL hunt you down like prey and they WILL make sure to turn you into their precious narcissistic supply. This is because they know you will give them ALL of the chances and they WILL abuse the f@#k out of you and laugh while they’re crushing your spirit. It’s almost like they lack a soul and despise the fact that you have such a beautiful one, so they will ENJOY watching you unravel and lose all hope. These people who feel the world owes them something will resent your light and joy, and will actively try to crush it because your happiness reminds them of what they never had and never will. It’s easier to destroy yours than to try and create something out of nothing.
Keep in mind that they won’t look like predators. These people are great at appearing normal, kind, supportive, and loving. It’s in between the lines where you’ll find what they truly are. Think of the phrase, “Wolf in sheep’s clothing.” They’re often the most charming, helpful-seeming people who slowly reveal their true nature through subtle actions and patterns. A slight dismissive or undermining comment here, a hardly noticeable disrespectful comment there. Playing you like a puppet. When you see things that don’t add up, please take note of it. Trust them when they show you who they truly are.
Make sure to really study that list of both unevolved energies and keep your eyes wide open. Remember that actions speak louder than words. If anything feels off about someone, trust your intuition. Listen to it. Your intuition will be your best friend. Keep your eyes as open as possible and look for areas where things don’t match. Give yourself a maximum of how many excuses to give another person, 3 at most I’d say as sometimes there can be mistakes and misunderstandings. But once that cap is reached, move the f@#k on. Wherever this person is at in their life is not a good fit for you. They’ll only drag you down and enjoy every moment of it.
Endless excuses for poor behavior is not helping either of you. It only keeps you both trapped — them in their unevolved energies and you in your suffering. Free the both of you by giving the responsibility and accountability for self growth back to them where it belongs. After all, we are the only ones who can make changes in our own lives. We cannot change others. People who repeatedly make the same mistakes and show no signs of remorse or willingness to change do not actually care about self improvement or bettering their lives. No one is truly that helpless, unless they’re literally an infant. There are people missing arms and legs or have disabilities that can still function properly and work hard to live happy and healthy lives. Your forgiveness will be spat on by these irresponsible predators. Not only that, they will completely lose respect for you because of your willingness to forgive so much. They do not think well of you, probably think you’re stupid for not being able to see them for what they truly are, and scoff at the kindness that you give to them. After all is done and they’ve gotten all of the supply that they could out of you, they’ll turn themselves into your victim and toss you aside as they seek new supply. Then they’ll tell everyone else how awful you were, all the worst things, while truly believing every word they say because, in their minds, they’re never the perpetrators, they’re never wrong. And the truly evil ones? They won’t even care if they’re lying to tarnish your reputation. They’ll enjoy every part of that too.
It is important to note that some people do not deserve second chances, especially the ones who relish in your suffering. While you might not want to hear this, there are truly evil people in the world who are unhelp-able and you MUST learn how to recognize them. You deserve better than to have people like this in your life. Keep that beautiful and loving heart of yours protected and only give to those who value your kindness and are willing to genuinely reciprocate. It’s absolutely okay to be discerning about who you invest your energy into. It doesn’t make you a bad person to be selective — it only makes you a wise one.
If others guilt trip you for not “helping” them, then please understand that they probably have something to benefit from you and the fact that they’re guilt tripping you, intentional or not, already signifies that they’re not worth helping. Please learn how to protect yourself from these type of predators who prey on people with beautiful and kind souls. Boundaries and accountability will be extremely important to learn.
You know that gut feeling you have when something’s not right? But then your mind kicks in and rationalizes away the situation, that you’re not being a “nice” person, that you’re being too sensitive, etc.? That gut feeling is your inner protector noticing something is off. Trust it. It’s there to help you. People who truly love and respect your boundaries will let you make choices on your own time, they will not push you to meet their agendas, and they will not punish you for having boundaries. Be mindful of the battle between your inner protector and what your mind is telling you. Often times, that rationalizing voice isn’t even your own, but one that’s passed onto you by someone with an antiquated perspective on what it means to be a “good” person. Knowing how to differentiate those voices in your mind will be important. Having a strong connection to your own authentic inner voice will be even more important.
Think of these people with unevolved masculine and feminine energy as giant black holes that can never be satiated. One would think that after they absorb your radiance, it would have some positive impact and transform them into their own sun, right? WRONG. Your precious light just goes into the endless dark void and disappears forever. This is the danger of trying to save people who not only do not care for it, but also want to suck you into their void, helping to remove your Light from the world. Be extremely careful when you identify these people and make sure you don’t stay too close.
If you can’t get away from people like this for whatever reason (e.g. prior commitments, loyalty), then just being aware is already a good start. Knowing what you’re dealing with, being aware of the truth of your situation, is already an important part of the healing process. When you know the beast you’re dealing with, you know how you should act and what you can and cannot accept. You can turn your situation into your own shadow gym. You don’t even need to let them know your plans. Work hard towards cultivating your inner growth and face your shadows, integrate the lessons that you learn, as this will be the most effective medicine and remedy towards freeing yourself from these unhealthy dynamics. When you do that deep inner work, it changes the frequency in which you operate and when your frequency no longer aligns with those of “narcissists,” they won’t even want to be around you anymore because you can no longer give them what they want (e.g. sympathy, attention, an audience for their victim stories, etc.). Not only that, your ability to spot inauthenticity will increase naturally as you become more authentic yourself. The more shadows you process, the less you will find yourself desiring to be around people like this. This is the most sustainable route I’ve discovered so far to freedom from such people.
If you ever find yourself in situations where you feel like the kindness of your heart is being taken advantage of or that you’re always giving until your cup is empty, never having anything left for yourself, go over the list again and see if there’s anyone in your life who matches a bulk of those unevolved qualities. I’d bet that person is someone you’ll need to draw strong boundaries with and distance yourself from. Also, if you’re giving away so much of yourself, that’ll be an indicator that your feminine energy needs balance, that you might be operating from unevolved feminine energy patterns. That’ll be your work to do.
Please remember to not make yourself wrong for attracting such people either. It’s because of your beautiful and kind heart that they will flock to you, and then find ways to tear you down. It’s just natural. They are experts at destroying that which is beautiful and doing it in the sneakiest of ways where no one even knows their true intentions. That is why it’s incredibly important for you to learn how to gatekeep who gets access to your heart. And if you want revenge, just ghost them without a reason. It’ll drive them crazy 😉
Let’s take this a bit further beyond our personal relationships and talk about what’s happening in the world right now. Doesn’t it seem a bit darker and bleaker than we’d like, with a collective of unprocessed shadows running amok? All those things you see on social media, especially with all of that virtue signaling and inauthenticity having the loudest voices, doesn’t something feel extremely off? In a time like this, it’s imperative that we don’t recklessly use our Light and scatter it. We can’t afford to let it be drained into voids or waste it on those who don’t value it.
Instead, we must be disciplined and intentional about how we focus and use our energy. We must ensure that our Light is protected, utilized properly, and amplified together for maximum effectiveness. Think of it like this — a single candle can easily be extinguished by a storm, but many candles brought together can create a beacon that can guide others and push back against the darkness. Once you kintsugi your wounds into something valuable — integrating the hard lessons that you’ve had to learn on your journey and allowing your inner Light to shine through again — you can band together with other broken suns and shine brightly in a group. Our power will be in our numbers and genuine support of one another.
This isn’t about hoarding our kindness, but it’s about being discerning with our most precious resource and understanding that our power isn’t just for ourselves. Our collective strength and focused energy can create a powerful and formidable force for change and healing in the world. We are moving towards a time where a new template for Love on this planet is much needed — one that comes from unconditional Love. You might be feeling called to participate and if so, it’s even more important that you know how to properly use your beautiful gift of a kind and unconditionally loving heart. Please protect it at all costs. Allow the love in your heart to flow continuously, and know how to create boundaries around it so that those who don’t deserve to be around it cannot enter.
Another perspective — if you truly love people unconditionally, then you can accept them as they are without needing to change or fix them. You’ll love them as “broken” as they are and see them as perfectly imperfect beings, just as you are perfectly imperfect. This means if people want to be victims, then they get to be victims. If they don’t want to do the inner work to evolve those energies, then they don’t need to. Just be very clear on what is acceptable to you. If you’re someone who works hard to self improve and to strive for balance between evolved energies, then I’d hope you will want your inner circle to reflect the same. So, there’s literally nothing to fix or change in others because they’re exactly where they want to be, doing the exact things they want to do, no matter how much we might disagree. Just make sure to maintain boundaries when those things they want to do are harmful to you. Make sure to keep your beautiful garden safe.
This is a guide I wish I was given growing up but I wasn’t, and so I had to learn the hard way. And some things I was completely blind to because it was too prevalent in my environment where being in power dynamic relationships felt as natural as breathing. Until I took a close look at that environment, and dissected it as best as I could, I was trapped in a vicious cycle of attracting such people of unevolved energies to varying degrees. Thankfully, through my dark night of the soul journey, and integration of those lessons especially around codependency, I am free now. Hopefully my hard-earned wisdom can be of use to you.
You deserve to be loved as much as you love others, not punished for it. Protect that beautiful and generous heart at all costs. I love you, my fellow Light worker ❤️❤️❤️❤️
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