I loveeeee this version of Fly To The Sky’s Like A Man song!!!
But— I find myself pondering the narrative of a frozen heart and hate. Having been on the receiving end of such intensely hateful emotions by someone who actually did try to exact revenge and cause me intentional harm, I sometimes wonder if that’s the best option or is there another way? Oddly enough, this experience helped me solidify my own belief that acknowledging the pain of loss while still choosing warmth and release over bitterness is the healthier route to take as it legit puts a stop to the creation of even more pain and suffering, which isn’t something I want to see more of in the world (less hatred and pain, more love and kindness please!). Not only that, holding onto hate and resentment seems to me like a prison we build for ourselves that traps *us* in our own suffering of victimhood and/or pain. The trick is that the door’s not locked, and we can leave that prison whenever we want. However, we must first acknowledge what we had created before we can dismantle what’s no longer serving us and to choose to free ourselves. That is the power we all have — to become aware of our own creations (positive or negative) and decide whether we want to change the narrative to one that leads to us living a more free, authentic, loving, and powerful life. I say let’s choose love and freedom. 🕊️
To be clear, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t allow ourselves to feel our own feelings and to let them run their course as they’re absolutely valid and that’s an important AND necessary part of healing and processing such heavy experiences (cry all you want, hate all you want) but what I’m wondering is when such emotions persist for so long, who is it really hurting? Also, if you’re someone who is willing to exact revenge because of lost love, I encourage you to consider whether or not you truly love that person without attachment or if your love comes from a place of possession and/or control. From my perspective, authentic love is unconditional, patient, and compassionate — even if things don’t work out, you can still love them from afar, wish them well, and hope that they live a thriving and full life with or without you. Fill your own heart up with love and let that embrace, heal, and free you ❤️